YES I Can!

by Lucinda Cross

Fear and Failure is not the new fad.  People talk so much about fear these days that is has become a convenient excuse just to sit in the corner and not take action.  Being fearful should not be a fad and it is not cute as my mother would say.  Giving your power away to fear is like a Lion giving up his position in the animal kingdom.  Its normal and human in nature to be afraid of the unknown, but don’t let it dominate you.

Life doesn’t reward quitters, towel throwers or forfeiters.  If a lion doesn’t conquer his fear, he would not be able to hunt the wild game; he would die from hunger all because he was afraid. So how does the lion conquer his fear, he goes after the big game.  Game that is bigger and sometimes faster than him/herself.

We must be like the lion and roar, stop rattling like a snake and roar like a lion or lioness. Lions are very social and live in families called prides, notice the word pride.  They are amongst other fearless lions.  When you observe the lion in nature, you will notice that it is best described by its strength, natural dignity and demand for respect. The lion is born as a powerful creature and power naturally comes to it. (you attract what you are)

Each of us was not born with fear in us, which is something we decided to adopt.  We told ourselves that fear can conquer us, shake, rattle and roll us around.  You must remember your birth right.  You are born powerful, fearfully and wonderfully made, just like the lion.

Get your roar back by doing the following:

·      Hold your head high – even in times of conflict – conduct yourself with dignity and demand respect

·      Stand tall, remember your birthright of power is moving through you at all times

·      Showcase your authority (not by dominating and being arrogant) but lead others with a loving heart, love conquers all

·      Protect your pride, stand up for what you believe in, protect your vision, and be aware of enemies and friendemies (friends that really don’t like you).

·      Have courage to act and move when needed.

·      Have faith

No matter what you have been through that may be paralyzing you, no matter what traumatic experience you have encountered now or in the past.  We all are fearful of something, someone or someplace.  But you cannot just sit there.  You are cheating the pride from having a strong powerful leader; you have to go from crawling to walking at some point, so why not stand tall NOW.

“If you don't accept failure as a possibility, you don't set high goals, you don't branch out, you don't try – you don't take the risk."
Rosalynn Carter

This quote moved me out of my comfort zone and provided me with the wakeup call that I needed to realize that the reason why we avoid the big vision, the next phase. We think we might fail and we are fearful of being a failure or embarrassed by the fear.

When a friend of mine decided to pursue her passion in fashion, she had a lot against her. Her health was not in the best shape battling with Lupus, she just relocated her family, and she was found herself going through a divorce that just added to the stress. The fashion industry was a whole different market; she had no close connections and was starting her networking process all over again.

Could she fail? Uhhh, yes.

But she set a goal to be at the Magic Show in Las Vegas anyway. The biggest fashion tradeshow in the entire U.S.!

Does that goal sound big enough, scary enough, out of her comfort zone?

Now with two major clients and an exclusive celebrity “Tutu” line, a visit to Martha Stewarts show, she has done it, and she's expanded her business, her team and her clientele.

Did it come easy? No way, she worked hard at it, making her fears and obstacles stepping stones. With consistent effort and belief in herself, and a “YES I CAN” goal, the vision manifested.

What is the lesson here?

If you believe in yourself just enough to look at fear and failure in the eye and not flinch, then you can do it and will do it successfully. 

Everyone who takes a risk has many failures, hidden fears, limiting beliefs and it comes along with the territory of growing to something greater.

Many people try to cover up their fears and their failures, but I say embrace it, recover from it and never ever give up trying.

What's the biggest and most impossible goal on your list?

Activate it!

Lucinda Cross is a powerful, inspirational, thought-provoking speaker. Her wonderful sense of humor, straight talk, no-nonsense approach empowers yet challenges individuals to step into their greatness.

As “Mom-entrepreneur” and Business Midwife Lucinda Cross of Yonkers, New York was motivated to start her own business while she was working frantically in the 9-5 corporate rat race.

Fast forward to 2011, and Cross is now a successful speaker, author, small business start-up expert and “mom” who has achieved the work/life balance that every woman dreams of. Cross has been featured on ABC, NBC, WLIB the Al Sharpton Show, over 100 blog talk radio shows and several blogs including Babble.com Top 50 Mompreneurs and more.

Her first book was published in October 2009, the best selling book "Corporate Mom Drop Outs" – Women who have traded in the life sentence for a profitable lifestyle will help “wanna-be” and “start-up” mom-entrepreneurs everywhere turn their dream of owning their own business into a reality. Written in trimesters, the book mimics the birthing process from inception to a healthy full-term business.

Buy the Book www.corporatemomdropouts.com

Visit the Blog www.lucindacross.com

Her life has been filled with wonderful experiences – from being a single mother, to a Mom-entrepreneur, sharing her gifts as a marketing strategist, mentor and writer she uses that wisdom and insight to motivate moms to create a better life, a better community and a better business. Cross will be releasing her 2nd book The Road To Redemption: Overcoming Life’s Detours, Roadblocks and Obstacles in 2012.

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